A few months ago I was cleaning and ran across the phone # for little man's "aunt" (the "family" member he was places with) I left it sitting in my drawer for weeks trying to get up the nerve to call. I just wanted to know how he was. Finally I asked my husband to call and just see how he was doing. I was hoping for some closure. She wanted to do lunch and meet with us. We agreed and met her that weekend. He looked exactly the same just taller. He also didn't seem to have change developmentally except for he was walking. He wasn't feeding himself or talking or anything most healthy 18 month old boys do. She told us that he was diagnosed with sensory disorder (really? hmmm I think I told them that since he was 4 months old but what does a foster mom know) I also think he was showing strong signs of attachment disorder but what would you expect of a child being taken at 7 month old from his family and placed with a stranger who I am sure has know idea how to help a child create a healthy attachment. She spent some time talking about how she didn't want him but was forced by family and case workers to take him.
I still can't decide if this was closure or just drugging up more if only's. I have to look at it as closure or risk killing myself with the if only's.
I am not sure how much we will stay in contact. Her adoption of little man was finalized end of July.
No comments:
Post a Comment