Our Story

Once upon a time I was mom to a beautiful baby boy. In my heart I am still his mom. I still worry if he is eating well or warm enough but I can't fix it if he is not. I pray for him every night but can no longer tuck him in and kiss his little head. So far this fairy tale has no happy ending. I pray that one day it will but for now my heart is to broken to see how it can. This is the past story and the continuing story of the joys and sadness we have experienced and continue to experience as we pursue adoption through foster care

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

yup we are still here and kicking

Termination was supposed to be set for this month but biomom was granted a continuation to try to prove she is fit.  So TPR is now set for may.
      in the past few weeks we have
                                       * hired a lawyer
                                       * been told that the caseworker is recomending us for adoption
                                       * been told the GAL is against us adopting becuase we are of a different ethnic background than baby
                                       * been told that MIPA (don't remember what is stands for but is a law preventing race to be a factor in an adoption)  will prevent GAL from making such a claim
                                       * found out biomom is still using and is pregnant
                                       * bio family has been found not fit for placement
                                      
We have started reserching and talking to our lawer and found out that foster parents have way more rights under the law then the county would like you to know about.
 what we have learned (remember I am not a lawer so this is just how I understand it)
                                   * if a child is in our home for more than 3 months we have the right to be party to the case and there for know everything that is going on and have a say for the childs best interest (they don't have to listen but I feel better at least knowing I get to voice my opinion)
                                   * under the law a kin placement is blood not the ex-wife of 20 years of a great uncle of bio moms MIA father.
                                   *but we have also learned that unless you have a lawyer to help them realize the law they will continue to opporate as if the law is not there.
                                  
                                   * we also learned that all though there are a lawyers willing to take the case at a reduced fee we still may need to sell a kidney and wish we had been saving for this from day 1. but baby is totaly worth the fight and the cost.