vistis to start again!?!?!?!?

Really? here we go again.
Bio-mom is back in the picture. She contacted the case worker last week asking for visits to start up again. Baby G has not seen her in over 3 months! and the last round of visits did not go very well he cried the entire 2 visits. Permanency hearing is in December and we have been hoping they will call for termination which is what the case worker had been hinting at but of course now they have just learned about 2 "family" members that they now have to do due diligence in checking them and look at placing baby with them. Case worker promised us that if they did move baby they would make it a smooth long transition....as if that is supposed to make us feel better.

Things bio-mom has missed
-1st birthday
-baby has gone from walking to running
-baby loves to dance
-6 teeth and more coming
-first cold/fever
-first time seeing snow he stood at the window all morning watching it
-his laugh
-calling her mom

family

As we get closer to baby g becoming part of our family we are finding that some family is not quite as supportive as they originally seemed. Quiet comments about how our bio children seem to have to take on to much responsibility because of baby or are missing out or get less attention. Implied suggestions that we don't have to go through with it or we can just give him back and get back to our "normal" lives. It's not like those thoughts haven't crossed our minds a time or two but in the midst of the chaos it is not the encouragement we need. Doing what is right is not always what feels good or is easy. Don't get me wrong we love baby g and consider it a blessing and honor to be his parents right now.  but there are times it is hard, when life before seemed less stressful. when the guilt of  feeling like the older kids are not getting enough attention,  when date night is cancelled because respite feel through or nights together after the kids are in bed is put on hold or cancelled altogether because baby woke up crying for no reason.
But when things get hard I remember that we are doing this for a reason and that baby g was placed in our family and it is up to God to decide for how long.
We are to gracefully remind our family that this is not a fade we will grow out of and that if baby g does in fact become a permanent part of our family he will be be a part of our family in all ways.

if anyone has ever had to deal with this issue I would love some feed back
on how you handled it.